I Am Way Too Sober For This - How I Survived Wedding Planning

Yeah I know, I'm not even married yet, the wedding is 14 days away (what's that, you want to send us a gift? here ya go). I wanted to share a few tips on how I'm getting through these shenanigans.


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1. Decide what is most important to you, and spend your money there. There are tons of lists and graphs and breakdowns that tell you how much you should spend and what percentage of your budget things should be, but we didn't follow them at all. In a budget of $2500, we spent $1500 of it on our photographer, because that was more important to us than party favors or a DJ or even my dress (which I made).

3 Secrets to Exemplary Baked Goods

I have three rules for Baking.

They have become a special fun saying in my house. I decided I needed some wall art with my rules so I could bestow my wisdom upon you.


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1. Never measure vanilla extract. Vanilla should really be splashed or poured. And when you know, you know. ;)

2. An extra egg yolk never hurt anyone. Want dense rich amazing cake or cupcakes? Throw an extra egg yolk in there. It makes the texture richer.

10 All Natural Cleaning Secrets for your Home

What, you don't like poisoning yourself slowly with chemicals and cleaners? Me neither.

Here is my collection of my favorite DIY Home Cleaning recipes!



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From Don't Waste the Crumbs

Whispers of the Heart - Run To Me

One Sunday, in church, I wrote a song. I was sitting and not really listening, when suddenly certain words and phrases kept hitting me. It was like God was specifically saying "Hold onto this, you're going to need it in your future."

And boy was He right.



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There have been days when I've needed to tell others to run.

There have been days where I needed to heed my own advice and turn from my sin and fall into the arms of my Savior.

There have been days when I felt like I was all alone, and that I was useless and worthless and how could be possibly forgive me.

And there have been days where I've said to myself, "No way, I can't go back to Jesus. I'm too much of a mess."

^Now that's just bad doctrine.

There's a song in the old hymnal I grew up with called "I Will Arise and Go to Jesus." It plays in my head whenever I think about returning and don't want to.

If you tarry 'till you're better
you many never come at all
I'm not going to get into the specifics. I had thought about it, but I don't think I need to. I've spent months deliberating over this blog post, and I think I've finally figured out what I'm trying to say, what I want to tell you.

Run.

Just turn, and run.

He forgives, that's what he does. He doesn't want to punish you. He doesn't want to give you a lecture. He just wants you back. 
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Like a kid who has disobeyed his parents, all his parents want them to do is come and tell them "Mom, dad, I hurt myself when I disobeyed you." Why do they want that? Not so they can laugh and make him suffer and say "I told you not to."

Just so they can heal the wound. 

Jesus, Sin, Confession, Blogging, Reflection

This is the song I wrote that Sunday. It's played on the piano with the violin in the background. 

1.
I know exactly how you feel 
because I’ve been there 
remember

I became a man for you 
as I will be 
forever

and now you’re curled up on the floor 
because you think that 
I’ve left you

but do you realize I’m right here 
with My arms out 
to hold you…

**
Run to Me 
when you've fallen to your knees 
run to Me 
I’m your Savior and High Priest 
run to Me 
let Me hold you in my arms and give you peace… 
run to Me

2. 
I’ve given you a way 
to come home 
accepted

I’m breaking down the walls 
of a shaky 
foundation

that’s blocking up your heart 
from My love and 
forgiveness

You’ve got to trust Me enough 
to get 
you through this

**
Run to Me 
when you've fallen to your knees 
run to Me 
I’m your Savior and High Priest 
run to Me 
let Me hold you in my arms and give you peace… 
run to Me

+++
Run away from temptation 
run to Me 
I’ve been praying forever 
that you’ll run to Me 
I love you so dearly 
so much more than you think 
run to Me 
run to Me…

**
Run to Me 
when you've fallen to your knees 
run to Me 
I’m your Savior and High Priest 
run to Me 
let Me hold you in my arms and give you peace… 
run to Me


...
Let me hold you in my arms and give you everlasting never-ending peace…
run to me.





You can see parts 1 and 2 of this series by clicking here.

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23 Tablecloths You Need For Your Dining Room ASAP

So Lover and I moved into our new apartment... mostly. We have keys and lights turned on, and half our stuff is there, but nobody is living there yet -_- 

One thing we acquired is a beautiful wood dining room table! It's round, but there's a leaf you can insert to make it bigger, and expand (which I think is so cool!)

Now the awesome thing about that is I can start collecting both round and rectangular tablecloths.

So I'm doing a collection of beautiful tablecloths! 

I love tablecloths. In my family, we only used a tablecloth when we had a special occasion like Christmas, or Easter, or guests. so in my mind, they are special beautiful things.

I plan on using them every day, because every meal I get to eat with my Lover is a good one!

So here is my collection of gorgeous drool-worthy tablecloths to make your dining room table that much prettier!




Red is the Rose - Roses, Health, and Freebies

Today Radha Beauty is offering an awesome deal on their Rosewater. What's Rosewater? Oh, I'm so glad you asked!


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So what is Rosewater? It's simple - you soak rose petals in water, and the water pulls all the good stuff out. Then you can put the water on your skin or in your food, and you consume the good stuff.

Now for a limited time, you can get the Rosewater 40% off, bringing it down to less than $6. That's quite a steal! Radha makes some great products.



Okay Haley, what is this "good stuff?" you keep talking about

I'm so glad you asked.

I made you something!



Yes I made another printable! This one is meant to go along side the Lavender one, to be hole-punched and put in a 3-ring notebook. There will be many more to come!

White Smile - the Environmentally and Mouth Friendly toothbrush!

I have highly sensitive teeth and gums to the point where I have to use kid-softness toothbrushes if I don't want my mouth to bleed every time I brush. I also drink 3 cups of coffee a day.

So when I got the chance to review White Smile's special toothbrush I was pretty excited about it!

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White Smile makes a brilliant toothbrush made from Bamboo for the handle, and charcoal bristles. If you bury this toothbrush in the back yard, it'll decompose rather than sit there for years. If you throw it in a fire, it'll burn rather than melt.

It's also surprisingly comfortable! I know what you're thinking: Haley, a toothbrush that's made of charcoal? That's gotta tear up your mouth.

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Nope! I was surprised. I have no clue how they did it, but the bristles are very soft, and don't hurt my gums at all (and like I said above, I have HIGHLY sensitive gums).

The White Smile  set comes with four toothbrushes, each in their own biodegradable box. all four boxes are then put in one larger box. Personally I think the packaging is a bit excessive, but it can also be useful if you're handing them out to various different people, or taking them on a trip.

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Now the only thing you need is some environmentally friendly and healthy toothpaste... oh hey, you can! I've made my own toothpaste that also helps with whitening, you can check it out right here!



Exploring Etsy - Welcome Home

Guess who's moving tomorrow! Yep, Lover and I are officially moving into our new apartment (we marry on the 7th of April. Here's our registry if you'd like to help us out!).

I've been wanting to get rid of some of my crap and clutter and old thrifted furniture for a while... so I've started this collection of gorgeous homegoods. Make sure you follow the Pinterest board for more updates!


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For Your Kitchen
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Personalized Cutting Board by Circle City Design


A beautiful Wine Rack that holds your wine, liquor, and glasses. Now 15% off from Greenman Rustics

Jesus, Babies, and Fishing

I wrote this as a writing assignment in College, and many people really responded positively. I ended up submitting it to a teen literary magazine and got it published!

(and then of course I lost it on my computer somewhere.)

But I just found it on Facebook memories, so I thought I'd share it with you.



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"Can you take me to Waynesville for a dollar and twenty-five cents?"

The woman was no taller than my shoulder, slightly hunched over, had shiny silver hair, and deep wrinkles in her skin. She spoke with a thick southern drawl, testifying her long life in North Carolina.

"To Waynesville from here?... that's two-fifty, ma'am." I said, "Sorry." I looked forward again, not wanting to look at her disappointed face.

"Oh." She said. She didn't leave, though. She looked down towards the bottom corner of her eye, staring at something. Her face was creased with worry. She stood there for a second thinking, then her face brightened.

"Is there anything I can do for you to get two-fifty?"

I sighed. "Ma'am, I'm sorry, there's nothing you can do for me, and there's nothing I can do for you. Now if you'll please step back onto the sidewalk, I need to look available for other people."

"I understand." She sighed. But she hesitated. "It's just that my granddaughter, she's seven? It's her birthday today see. She's seven today. She's such a sweet girl, and pretty too. She looks just like her mother she does, bright green eyes and blonde hair, has her daddy wrapped around her finger. She wants to be a princess when she grows up. But don't all little girls want to be a princess? I wanted to be a princess. I married a farmer. But he was as good a prince as any. Gave me nine babies that man did, and I ate a meal every day of my life. Granted some days we only ate once, but we ate every day. Only six of my babies lived though. Now my oldest daughter, now she is the sweetest thing, nothing at all like her twin brother…"

She went on for another two minutes. Finally I realized she wasn't going to stop, so I might as well drive her and get my dollar and twenty-five cents. I opened the passenger door and helped her in, the whole time she told me about her two oldest twins and how the boy had died at the age of twelve from pneumonia. "Cried and cried I did, until I realized my baby boy was in heaven with Jesus. Do you believe in Jesus?"

"Yes ma'am." I answered, speaking my first words since she'd started her babble.  They weren't true words, but I'd gotten two seconds to speak and I had no regrets.

"He is the way and the truth and the life, He is." She said zealously, nodding at her own conviction.
Then she switched from her children to her congregation. She started talking about the pastor and how wonderful he was, and his sweet wife who was so beautiful even in her old age because she used some special Russian beauty treatment, and the women in her bible study, and the gossip, and the scandal. "see about twenty years ago the church split over a silly argument. We were all so broken and upset, and I asked Jesus, "Jesus? Why'd you let this happen to me? Why did you let this happen to our church"?" she spoke as if she was really asking it, looking up at the ceiling of the cab like she was looking straight up into heaven. She had that creased face of hers pulled up into a pout with her bottom lip sticking out.

"And you know what Jesus said to me?" she looked over at me, waiting for a reply.

"No I don't."

"He said, 'Same reason I took your baby boy.' That's what He said. See, Pastor said that churches are like atoms. They split and that's how they multiply. And I didn't see what that had to do with my baby boy. But I thought about it, and my mind was quite a quick thing back then, and I realized what he meant was, Jesus wanted more babies."

I tried to think of how a church split would give Jesus more babies, but I was coming up blank.

"See my granddaughter, she just got her first Bible in church last week. She had to borrow a Bible from the church and they told her that if she read the whole thing from start to finish, they'd give her her very own. So she did. She sat down every day in church and read as much as she could, and sometimes she'd sneak it into her bag and bring that Bible home—yeah that little thing would steal a Bible even though she knew stealing was wrong, she'd do it because she wanted her own—and she read through that thing so fast that before I could turn around twice through and climb on a chair, she'd finished reading the whole thing. And I can't beat that with a stick. I didn't read a whole Bible through until after I'd been married for twenty-five years!" she exclaimed.

She told me about Susan, her granddaughter, and how beautiful she was, and how eager she was to learn, and it reminded me of Sammy, my boy at home. He would be handsome like his momma. I thought about how much he looked like me, and how he looked up to me and thought I was the best man in the world. He had my dark skin and dark eyes and thick New York accent and wide smile when he wanted to show it off. I tried to remember the last time I'd sat with him, or taken him out fishing, or gone to the movies with him. He was the kind of boy who would like the girl this lady was describing.

Suddenly I really wanted to do exactly what she had done to me; I wanted to tell her everything about my little boy. But more than that I wanted to go home to him. Her telling me all about her family made me run through my memories and miss my boy and my wife and even my mother.

But I kept my mouth shut because I knew whatever I told her she'd probably tell someone else.
She talked more about her granddaughter, and finally we arrived at the address she'd told me. I helped her out and gave her the bag she'd brought. I walked her to the door and she knocked. A little girl answered the door and her eyes grew wide and twinkled when she saw her grandma. She squealed and ran into her arms. The old woman laughed and hugged the little girl and they walked into the little house.

I left without the dollar and twenty-five cents, the whole way home thinking about everything ma'am had taught me in the thirty minute drive about family, and Jesus, and babies, and taking my boy fishing.



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Ta-Da! I made my first printable!

I've made my first printable. It's a double-sided page designed for you to hole punch and put in a binder.

Now why would I do that?


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I'm planning a project.

This is just the beginning. Enjoy, and look for more freebies coming your way soon!



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I've featured Lavender before, but I wanted to revisit it because it's so underappreciated. I'll be doing more pages soon, so keep your eyes peeled and go find yourself a nice 3-ring binder to start collecting your notes and info!

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DIY Whitening Disinfecting Cavity-Healing Toothpaste

Did you know that many toothpastes include chemicals that are really not good for you? And did you can make your own toothpaste that is environmentally friendly and much healthier? And it will heal cavities and whiten your teeth?

Well shoot Haley, why didn't you say so earlier?

Sorry!

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There are lots of articles out there on toothpaste and what should and shouldn't be in them. Let's just keep it simple and stick with my favorite saying:

If you can't find it in your fridge, your pantry, or your garden, it shouldn't go on your skin or in your mouth.
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Toothpaste is loaded down with synthetic materials and chemicals that are really not great. But nobody is denying how important toothpaste is! So how about we make our own that won't kill you?


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But wait a minute, Haley! Isn't Home-made toothpaste made with baking soda? Baking soda damages tooth enamel, right?

Here is the short answer: No it doesn't.

Now here's the long answer.

Classy Enclosed Liter Boxes for your Cat

All cat owners hate the litter box. If you're lucky you can train your cat to use the toilet, but my cat prefers to use that article as a water-bowl, so we can't do that. Living in a small apartment with a cat is fine, but it's so important to have a clean and discrete litter box!

DIY Ideas and Inspiration for Enclosed Kitty Litter Box


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Right now I keep my litter box under the bathroom sink (I took the cabinet doors off and made a curtain to go in front). My cat is chill with it, but she has this nasty habit of covering her business with fearsome energy, therefore scattering litter around the room. I want to make her an enclosed box we can put somewhere (maybe the laundry room or the patio?) but that means no scattered litter!

So here are my favorite Pinterest choices for enclosed litter boxes!

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