5 minutes… here’s a song for you!!

It’s been forever since I’ve listened to BOYS LIKE GIRLS…. but I remembered this song for you ;)

Brown eyes and lungs are filled up with smoke
Fast lives are stuck in the undertow
But you know the places I wanna go
Cause oh oh oh
I've got a sickness, you've got the cure
You've got the spark I've been lookin' for
And I've got a plan, we walk out the door
You know you wanna
Just let go
It's time to roll down the windows
Sing it oh oh
Got all we need so here we go
Turn it up
It's five minutes to midnight
You're coming home with me tonight
I can't get enough
Shakin' me up
Turn it up
Alright, at five minutes to midnight
We'll see our name in city lights
We'll make the clock stop
Make your heart drop and come alive
We could
Pack up and leave all our things behind
No fact or fiction or storyline
Cause I need you more than just for tonight
You're oh oh oh like air
I can't stop my breathing in
I'm weak and you were my medicine
I won't stop till I am under your skin
You know you wanna
Just let go
It's time to roll down the windows
Sing it oh oh
Got all we need so here we go
Turn it up
It's five minutes to midnight
You're coming home with me tonight
I can't get enough
Shakin' me up
Turn it up
Alright, at five minutes to midnight
We'll see our name in city lights
We'll make the clock stop
Make your heart drop and come alive
And when the clock strikes twelve
Will you find another boy to go and kiss and tell?
Cause you know I never will
I think we should strike a match
We'll hold it to the wind to and see how long it lasts
We can make the time stand still
Turn it up
It's five minutes to midnight
You're coming home with me tonight
I can't get enough
Shakin' me up
Turn it up
Alright, at five minutes to midnight
We'll see our name in city lights
We'll make the clock stop
Make your heart drop and come alive
Turn it up
It's five minutes to midnight
You're coming home with me tonight
I can't get enough
Shakin' me up
Turn it up
Alright, at five minutes to midnight
We'll see our name in city lights
We'll make the clock stop
Make your heart drop and come alive

Review: Lucifer Rising

Lucifer Rising by Barbara Fifield
Genre: Fiction
Rating: 1/5

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Summary (from goodreads): Can Elsa ever escape cult leader Tyrell, a reincarnation of the devil? What about him does she find so mesmerizing? Tyrell has lured women into his snare over many reincarnations. Will he succeed with Elsa? Or will she be able to break away from him?

When I accepted this book for review, the summary provided sounded very exciting and engaging… but this book was strange. That’s really the only word I have for it. Weird and strange. Here’s why:

One—I felt out of place while I read this. I felt like I had been dumped into the middle of a book on the first page. There was no introduction to the characters, there were no descriptions, there was no explanation. And it didn’t work. Sometimes in a book, that’s ok, because it works with the mysterious quality of it, but in this situation it was just unreadable.

Two—The writing wasn’t good. It felt choppy and vague and un-detailed and empty, as if the words on the page didn’t mean anything. It was very hard to read. The dialogue felt forced and most of the narrative was unclear.

Three—I have a high tolerance for strange and supernatural, but the stuff in this book was just really odd. I didn’t get past Chapter 3.

I’m really sad that I didn’t like this title because I was so excited to read it, and it sounded great… but it was just a really lame book.

~Haleyknitz
knitter

It makes perfect sense to me :)

It might look like a mess to you…

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but it makes perfect sense to me :)

 

~Haleyknitz
knitter

10-book giveaway!

Susan has just started her blog and is having a grand-opening giveaway of ten books. Winner takes all!

Angels by Marian Keyes
The Shop on Blossom Street by Debbie Macomber
Angels Fall by Nora Roberts
Engaging Men by Lynda Curnyn
Cloud Chamber by Michael Dorris
I Don't Know How She Does It by Allison Pearson
To Cut a Long Story Short by Jeffrey Archer
Star Craving Mad by Elise Abrams
Little Children by Tom Perrotta
Late Night Talking by Leslie Schnur

go here! http://alltheprettypages.blogspot.com/2009/12/grand-opening-giveaway-10-books.html

~H

I like my new camera

 

Begin Randomness:

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This is a cool picture. Because you can see my hand in the reflection :D

The little device is something that I got at Target today for 50% off. It’s an alarm clock/radio/mp3 speaker thingie. And the mp3 player is a Zune.

Zune sucks. Don’t get a Zune. I don’t want to bother reviewing… but seriously it’s not worth it.

but the picture is cool. The camera is cool, too ;D

End Randomness.

~H

*grin*

Look at my address bar! There’s something special there ;)

How did I do that?

click here for the tutorial by The Neverending bookshelf (whose blog I adore).

~H

Contemporary Romance Reading Challenge

I get exhausted from paranormal stuff sometimes… So this challenge looks perfect for me :D

Here is the post borrowed from Pearl’s World of Romance, where you can sign up.

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Before I list the details, I do want to make one thing clear: by contemporary romance I mean straight contemporary, so without paranormal, fantasy or time-travel elements… (i.e. Harlequin Blaze, Harlequin Presents, Harlequin Super Romances, Silhoutte Desires, etc.)

Details:
1. Read at least 10 contemporaries between January 1, 2010 and December 31, 2010

2. You don't have to pre-select your books, you can just add them as you go. Even if you list them now, you can change the list if needed. Nothing is set in stone! Also, the books you choose can crossover into or from other challenges you are participating in.

3. Feel free to grab the button below for the sidebar of your blog. It would be great if you would link it back to this post so others can find their way back to this post and join the challenge.

4. If you decide to join this challenge be sure to create a post telling others and feel free to add a link back to this post so others can join in the fun.

5. I will be creating review posts where you can link your own reviews, but reviews are optional.

 

So this will be fun :D

 

  1. Love you to Death
  2. The Heights
  3. The Last Song

~Haleyknitz

knitter

New years Resolutions

Ok so it’s December 30th… (wow that came fast!!) Here are my resolutions for 2010:

 

  1. STOP. BITING. NAILS. I’ve quit plenty of times. It takes weeks. It also takes about three seconds to destroy weeks of work.
  2. Lose the weight I gained over Christmas (yes there is actually some extra luggage on this dancer.)
  3. Read more books (hah)
  4. keep the room clean(er)
  5. get all my Christmas presents knit by August so that I can enjoy the season next year instead of knitting like a maniac
  6. Comment more. I have a kind of policy with myself: If I read a post completely through, I post a comment. I haven’t been keeping up with that and I hope to change that! Comments on my blog make my day. I’m assuming it’s the same with everyone else!

So… what are your resolutions?

Review: The Red RED Car

The Red RED Car by Manjula Naraynan

Genre: Children’s Literature and fiction

Rating: 4/5

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The red RED car is not just called red because of the color of his paint—he’s red with anger. He never follows the rules and always does what he wants. That gets him into trouble one day when he tries to be in a race. The red RED car gets hurt and goes to the hospital, and decides that he needs to change, and he works hard on controlling his anger. Then once he masters his anger, he wins every race.

The message in The Red RED Car was clear and very important for kids—anger is hurtful to others as well as to you.

I thought The Red RED car was really cute and showed anger for what it was: ugly and scary. The illustrations were very colorful and energetic, perfect for the book.

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The only part I didn’t like was the fact that when the car got hurt he “heard voices”  (his own voice in his head telling him it was his own fault that he lost) and fell unconscious, and that seems just a little odd for a children’s book.

Recommendation: Ages 4-8

~Haleyknitz
knitter

Review: The Mudhogs

The Mudhogs, written and Illustrated by Dalton James

Genre: Children’s literature, picture books

Rating: 5/5

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In the story of The Mudhogs, the three pigs named Piggy, Piggles, and Piglet love mud. They want to play in the mud but there isn’t any in the barn that they live in. So they travel the world looking for mud… and when they get home they learn an important lesson.

This is a really cute book that all kids will love. It’s easy to understand and is written by a kid for a kid. The illustrations are adorable and the story is funny and cute. It is short and sweet and the lesson remains something that children and adults all need to remember.

Recommended for ages 3-10.

About the Author:

dalton james Dalton James is a bright and imaginative eight-year old who enjoys reading and writing books. This is Dalton’s third book that he as written and illustrated. He continues to make his parents and teachers very proud of his accomplishments.

Dalton’s other books are: The Sneakiest Pirates, and The Heroes of Googley Woogley. Books can be purchased here.

 

 

 

~Haleyknitz
knitter

Food for thought

Last fall, I was at my community college for school. I was taking a piano course and had gone into an extra classroom to practice. I’d left my purse there by accident.

I went to class and grabbed for my purse and it wasn’t there. I got up hurridly and began to search the classrooms, eventually going back to the room I had been practicing in. The door was locked and my purse was gone.

It isn’t a hard purse to miss. It’s neon green. My Aunt gave it to me for my birthday (or Christmas?) one year, and it was one of my favorites. It had my driver’s permit, my money (all $40 of it), my cell phone, and my social security number.

I was very freaked out and almost in tears. I’m assuming you would be too. I searched the building again for people, but it was empty. It was the dead part of the day at the campus. I left the building and began the long walk back to the student center where I called the security guard.

While I was walking, I got my head back on straight. I prayed and told God that whatever happened was His will and I’m sorry for freaking out and that I knew I’d be ok because He would take care of me but please please please let me find the purse.

After I asked the security guard at the lost and found (he didn’t have it) I started on my way back to the building I had been in, because my daddy was going to pick me up there. I was supposed to call him but I didn’t have a phone. I figured I’d just wait until he showed up.

Well he did show up because he did get a call. A lady who was a customer at our store and a teacher for the school had found the purse and put it in her office. She’d found the phone and called my dad and said she’d found my purse. She hadn’t been able to find me, though, because I was searching the building madly and trying not to worry too much about my identity being stolen by some freak.

When daddy told me the whole story I relaxed and went to get my purse. She smiled and I thanked her for taking it.

When I got home, I thought for a while. What really mattered in the whole situation, and what did I learn? What really mattered was my heart. I learned that my reactions need to be different. Yes after a while I got my head back on straight and trusted God, but that wasn’t the initial reaction. I learned that my trust isn’t wholly in God and it needs to be. God looks at the heart more than our actions. Where was my heart when I freaked out? Where was my faith and my trust? It was in me, and my own ability to keep good track of my things. That was wrong.

I bring this up because we talked about these kinds of situations in our morning Bible study at home. We had some good discussions. We always do, with six people who are both Christians and sinners (and a brother who thinks too hard about everything ;D). But this one struck me as special.

And along the same lines, on Monday night my daddy got in a car wreck. It wasn’t serious, nobody was hurt, and the car won’t be too expensive to fix. But it was like a wake-up call. It was like God was saying “Hey, I hope you realize I can take everything away from you at the drop of a hat.” and we were saying “Oh yeah, You’re right. Thanks for not doing that.” Where was my trust when mommy left the house? This time it was in God. I knew God would take care of us and him. I wasn’t panicked at all.

Trials don’t come slowly. They come quickly and unexpected. So when you’re in a trial, where is your hope? Who do you trust to take care of you? What does your reaction say about that?

Just thought I’d share.

~H

Review: Nine Dragons

Nine Dragons (Audio) by Michael Connelly, read by Len Cariou

Genre: Crime thriller

Rating: 4/5

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From Goodreads: LAPD Detective Harry Bosch is off the chain in the fastest, fiercest, and highest-stakes case of his life.


Fortune Liquors is a small shop in a tough South L.A. neighborhood, a store Bosch has known for years. The murder of John Li, the store's owner, hits Bosch hard, and he promises Li's family that he'll find the killer.

 
The world Bosch steps into next is unknown territory. He brings in a detective from the Asian Gang Unit for help with translation--not just of languages but also of the cultural norms and expectations that guided Li's life. He uncovers a link to a Hong Kong triad, a lethal and far-reaching crime ring that follows many immigrants to their new lives in the U.S.


And instantly his world explodes. The one good thing in Bosch's life, the person he holds most dear, is taken from him and Bosch travels to Hong Kong in an all-or-nothing bid to regain what he's lost. In a place known as Nine Dragons, as the city's Hungry Ghosts festival burns around him, Bosch puts aside everything he knows and risks everything he has in a desperate bid to outmatch the triad's ferocity.

 

I was so excited to read Nine Dragons, because I love a good crime thriller and had read such good reviews for it. It didn’t disappoint. I was drawn into Harry Bosch’s world and mind right away. The plot keeps you guessing and sitting on the edge of your seat. The dialogue is lively and funny, the writing was good, and the reader was excellent in narration, voices of the characters, and speed at which he read. This is not a title to be missed.

Nine Dragons is book 14 in the Harry Bosch series, but it makes an excellent stand-alone. Only occasionally did I feel “left out of the loop” so to speak. Everything that was necessary to understand the book was explained.

Content: A reader should go into a crime thriller expecting some language. There was some language in the book but it wasn’t too overused. As far as gruesome details, it wasn’t hard to read. I wouldn’t let a kid read it, though.

Recommendation: Ages 16+

~Haleyknitz
knitter

Won books reading Challenge

This challenge is exactly what I need! I’ve won so many books… and read almost none of them!

Books Won Reading Challenge

this challenge is hosted at So many precious books, so little time. Head on over there to sign up!

Levels:

Honorable Mention: Read 1-3 book you won.

Bronze: Read 4-6 books you won.

Silver: Read 7-9 Books you won.

Gold: Read 10 or more books you won.

The Rules:

  1. You must write a review for each book that you read for it to count.  If you do not have a blog you can write your reviews on a place like Amazon, Powell's, Chapters, etc.
  2. Crossovers with other challenges are okay.
  3. Audiobooks count, as long as you won them.  As do won e-books.
  4. You can change up levels but cannot go back down a level.  
  5. Make a list of the books won that you plan to read for the challenge.  You can always make changes to the list.

I might change this list… we’ll se ;)

  1.  Magic Under Glass
  2. The Agency—a spy in the house
  3. Storm Glass
  4. The Historian
  5. The Bible Salesman
  6. The Heretic’s Daughter
  7. Mr. Darcy, Vampyre
  8. Coffeehouse Angel
  9. Shiver
  10. The Smart one and the pretty one

 

 

~Haleyknitz
knitter

Contest: Stitch Style Mittens

Contest is now closed.

I have decided to do something kind of special: I’m giving away a pair of hand-knit mittens or gloves! This contest will be international (because I love you guys so much I’m willing to spend a fortune on yarn, needles, and shipping ;D). I’m using this book to pick the pattern:

mittens

which is a fantastic book that I got from Martingale &Company. I’m posting the photos of the pattern the winner will get to pick from. When I end the contest I will post a review on the book.

Here are your choices: White and red bow (mittens), Fair Isle (fingerless gloves), Polka-dots (mittens), Ribbon Wrist (fingerless mitts), and Sequins (mittens).

white bow fair isle polkadots ribon sequins

 

Contest will run December 29-January 10. Winners will be picked morning of January 11th.

Rules: International, must be a follower, leave a comment. All entries will be in one comment! You don’t have to leave an e-mail address, but make sure you check back to see if you won!

Entries:
+3 old follower
+1 new follower
+1 every link you post
+3 leave a comment and fill out her poll on the sidebar for Hannah at
Hannah’s Magic Pencil
+5 blog post about this contest
+5 my button on your blog
+5 if you participate in my other contests (5 points for each other contest you enter. See the sticky post on the top of the blog for the links!)

Hey boys! You can enter too! I know the mittens look kind of girly, but if a boy wins I can take off the ribbon/sequins/decor and “man” the mittens up a little bit (because I’m just so cool like that.) Or you can give them to your girlfriend or sister or mom. Because you’re just so nice like that.

Good luck to all of you!

~Haleyknitz
knitter

Review: One Scream Away

One Scream Away by Kate Brady

one scream awayGenre: Romantic Suspense, Crime Thriller, Murder

Rating: 4/5

 

Seven years ago, Chevy Bankes did something horrific to Beth. She’s been living with her ghosts ever since then. Beth has learned to live on her own and has raised her daughter by herself. But she isn’t prepared to face Bankes when she finds out that he’s been released from prison, and that now he’s after her. Neil, an ex-FBI agent, has somehow gotten himself roped into the case. Now it’s causing him to have to dig up his own ghosts and face them, too. Can two people who lost love earlier in their lives learn to love each other, can Beth keep her daughter out of Bankes’ hands, and can Neil save the woman he loves from her worst nightmare?

One Scream Away was one of those books that you stay up late reading and that you can’t put down, and that you yell at whoever interrupts you because it was so addicting good. It was exciting, suspenseful, romantic, mysterious… everything a book should be.

Without giving away anything, there were many parts in this book that I felt my heart rip when I read what happened. The characters were tangible, like I could pluck them out of the book and set them on my table and watch the rest of the story play out. But they were also relatable, so most of the time I felt like the characters themselves.

Pacing and plot were fantastic in this one. It was impossible to see what would happen next, and Kate Brady keeps you guessing until the very last page, and surprises you at the end.

The writing was not the strongest point. It wasn’t bad per se, it just wasn’t very good either. Acceptably mediocre is the best phrase I can think of, because it wasn’t Dante, but it wasn’t hard to read.

My only other complaint was that a lot of the times, Brady describes what things look like, but not what things feel like. Although the characters were very relatable, I found my own imagination supplying the feelings of the characters while I read this.

Content: There was no elicit sex in this book, although scenes are mentioned and skipped over. There was a lot of language (hey, we’re talking about FBI agents and Police officers and Serial Killers here.) and some rather vulgar details. Murder is not exactly pleasant. Although it wasn’t mapped out in extreme detail, the images left in the reader’s mind are ones that are not for the faint of heart. Or stomach.

Recommendation: Ages 18+

 

~Haleyknitz
knitter

Winners of David Sedaris audio book!!!

The winners are…

 

A Real Librarian

Debb

J.T. Oldfield

 

Congrats, guys!! E-mail me at haleymathiot@yahoo.com by Thursday morning with your mailing address so I can forward it to Anna. If you don’t e-mail me by Thursday, I’ll pick a new winner.

~Haleyknitz
knitter

Win a signed copy of Rising Shadow!

Miss Lindsay over at Crazy Books and Reviews has an author interview and a giveaway for a signed copy of Rising Shadow. Head on over there and enter! You won’t want to miss this book!!

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~H

my blog looks pretty now :)

I updated my layout!! It took all morning, but I did it. Hopefully it’ll give me less fits than the other ones. The only downside is I have a shorter navigation bar… trying to see what I can do about that….

With that in mind, check my blog list on the sidebar. If you don’t see your blog and you want it listed, leave a comment with the url and I’ll add it.

And! Guess what book I got from Waldenbooks for 30% off…

Fallen…

:D excited!!

 

Here’s an awesome video for you that my wonderful bestest friend showed me :D

 

 

just to make your day a little more exciting

~H

knitter

btw does anyone have a pair of US size 5 dpn they’d be willing to swap?

Giveaway: The Basic Book of Digital Photography

Contest closed

Thanks to FSB Associates, I’ve got one copy of

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to give away!!! (see my review here)

 

Rules: USA only, No P.O. Boxes. ONLY ONE ENTRY PER PERSON! You don’t have to be a follower, but I’d love it if you were ;)  you don’t have to leave your e-mail, but make sure you check back to see if you won!!

ends: January 16th January 20th

Required To Enter: leave a comment  telling me your favorite thing/place/person/time of day to take photos.

That’s it!

good luck :D

~Haleyknitz
knitter

Review: The Basic Book of Digital Photography

photographyThe Basic Book of Digital Photography by Tom and Michele Grimm
Genre: Educational, Artistic
Rating: 4.5/5

 

Tom and Michele Grimm have compiled a magnificent handbook for any photographer, beginner or otherwise. This book has everything in it—from how to pick the best camera for you, to when and where to shoot, to editing, to timing… the list goes on and on.

The book is packed with photos, both color and black and white, examples, footnotes, and easy to read and understand text. At first glance it may seem intimidating, but it is so incredibly reader friendly that it’s suitable for almost any age.

The only thing about this book that I didn’t like was that there were only some pictures that were color, and most of them were black and white.

Recommendation: Ages 10+ to anyone interested in digital photography, whether they have been snapping photos for years or whether they’ve never even picked up a digital camera.

 

**Thank you to FSB Associates for providing my review copy!**

~Haleyknitz
knitter

Guest Post: Wednesday Martin, author of Stepmonster

I have the privilege of welcoming Wednesday Martin to my blog today!

Stepfamily Sanity this Holiday Season
By Wednesday Martin, Ph.D.,
Author of Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do

When you think of holidays, you probably think of family.

And that's what makes holidays so tough for stepfamilies. At this time of year, couples in a remarriage with children might be feeling . . . imperfect. For example, they might be polarized -- he misses his kids, while she hopes they won't treat her like the maid when they show up. She wants to buy her 25-year old's plane ticket to come for a holiday visit -- he thinks she spoils her kids and young adults should pay their own way.

Even if they're on the same page about their step/kids, both members of the couple likely find themselves facing plenty of misunderstanding from friends and family as visions of sugarplums dance in our collective heads. "His kids won't be here for the holidays? How come?!" "I can't believe they're going to spend only Christmas Eve with you." "You're not doing holidays with his ex? How come? Isn't that the best thing for the kids?"

In the face of all the pressure and misunderstanding, take heart. Here are ten simple tips for stepfamily sanity this holiday season.

1. Give up on "blending." Stepfamilies come together in their own ways, and in their own time -- experts say four to 12 years! Particularly at holiday time, stepkids of any age may feel their loyalty binds more acutely ("Dad's remarried but mom's not so I should spend the whole holiday with her"). And sometimes in spite of a stepparent's best efforts, a stepchild may keep his or her distance, taking a "stand" at holiday time. Don't expect your stepfamily to resemble an eggnog smoothie during the holidays and you'll spare yourself and your marriage a lot of aggravation.

2. Let your stepfamily be what it is. One family I interviewed put up two trees every year, because it mattered that much to them all to honor their own traditions. Respecting those differences can help everyone come together in their own way.

3. Know that you and your spouse will probably argue. From deciding how much to spend on gifts for her kids, to reopening old wounds about how the stepkids behaved during holidays past, couples in a remarriage with children are under extraordinary pressure this season. Arguments aren't signs of failure -- they're opportunities to communicate. Find communication formulas and tips that work for you in Stepmonster and other books for couples with stepchildren.

4. Keep it normal. Whether they're five or 50, what kids want post divorce and remarriage is a sense of belonging. So skip the red carpet welcome and think "inclusive" and "normal." Give mom or dad some time alone with his or her kids, and then do the things you do every day and every holiday, inviting the kids to join. Let older and adult stepkids help with holiday meal planning and prep, serving and clean-up. Little ones can make place cards or holiday art for guests. This helps them feel like family, not guests. And when they're pitching in and happy, stepmom/stepdad won't feel as depleted or de-centered by their visit.

5. Choose side by side activities. Puzzles, stringing popcorn, baking, and watching a holiday movie all let you spend time together without interacting "head on," which experts like Patricia Papernow tell us can be more stressful for "steps."

6. Know your limits. Don't do or give in a way that will increase your resentment. If your stepkids habitually forget to bring anything for you, or have a history of not writing thank you notes, don't go overboard with extravagant gifts and efforts. Let them be your guide to avoid martyr syndrome ("I do and I do for them!") during (and after) the holidays.

7. Strategize ahead of time. Stepfamilies aren't first families. There may be tensions, and that's normal. Spouses might have to plan out activities and time alone ahead of time. "I think I'm going to need a break tomorrow. How about a long walk together first thing in the morning?" This is not a failure -- just a constructive way of adapting.

8. Remember stepfamily members bond best one-on-one. All-together-now activities can activate stepkids' anxieties about who's an insider and who's an outsider. Give parent and stepparent plenty of one-on-one time with kids and stepkids -- and with each other. And don't forget about yourselves as a couple. You need one-on-one time, too.

9. Get out of the house. For stepmothers especially, there can be extraordinary pressure to create that Norman Rockwell aura over the holidays. Before the pressure gets to be too much, get out to see friends and your own family. Take time to pamper, whether it's a spa visit or a coffee with pals who understand and don't judge. Getting out of your own home, away from your stepkids and even your spouse, isn't a sign of failure. It's a necessity, rejuvenating you and helping prevent stepparental burnout.

10. Let go of the guilt. Remember that even first families struggle with unrealistic expectations during the holidays. If things don't go perfectly -- if there are squabbles or hurt feelings -- have faith that this is normal and won't damage the kids or your marriage irreparably. Stepfamily members are bound to have differences and even blow-ups. By showing your stepkids that people can argue and then move on, you are modeling the kind of resilience that will serve them well for a lifetime. That might be the ultimate holiday gift.

©2009 Wednesday Martin, Ph.D., author of Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do

Author Bio

Wednesday Martin, Ph.D., is a social researcher and the author of Stepmonster: a New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do (2009). She is a regular contributor to Psychology Today (www.psychologytoday.com) and blogs for the Huffington Post and on her own web site (www.wednesdaymartin.com). She has appeared as a stepparenting expert on NPR, the BBC Newshour, Fox News and NBC Weekend Today, and was a regular contributor to the New York Post's parenting page. Stepmonster is a finalist in the parenting category of this year's "Books for a Better Life" award.

A stepmother for nearly a decade, Wednesday lives in New York City with her husband and two sons. Her stepdaughters are young adults.

 

Thank you, Wednesday!

See my review of Wednesday’s book, Stepmonster, here.

~Haleyknitz

knitter

Review: Stepmonster

stepmonster Stepmonster by Wednesday Martin, Ph.D

Genre: Self-help, memoir, non-fiction

Rating: 3/5

Wednesday Martin has created a handbook for stepmoms. This book is packed with useful (and at times painful) information—the stories that our “evil stepmother” images come from, explaining the conflicts between stepmother and stepchild, how to get the husband to help with the mother-child relationship, and perspectives on relationships from husbands, wives, and even grandparents.

However much I’d like to recommend this book, I can not say that this is the best book for stepparents. I’d have to recommend the Bible first and foremost, because God’s way of life is the only holy and perfect one. A relationship cannot exist between two people who do not work at it, and the only thing that can change the heart of an individual and make them work at it is God. The Bible shows us and targets what the source of the problems in second marriage really is: sin. The Bible also shows that stepparents are a gift, that children are expected to honor them, and that God wants (and helps) all sides of the multi-person relationship to work it out. Only with His help can a strong stepparent-stepchild relationship or second marriage be built.

With that in mind, I can say that this book is a good secondary source, or great for someone who does not lean on the Bible. It explains the psychology behind what goes on in all sides of the triangle’s heads: the new wife, the husband, and the children. I also have to say that Martin is a very good writer, and I was drawn into what she had to say.

Recommendation: I do recommend this book to anyone who wants down-to-earth modern-day insight to understanding the problems in their second marriage.

 

**Thank you to FSB Associates for my review copy!**

~Haleyknitz
knitter

why did the chicken cross the road?

Sometimes I post stuff I find online. In this case, my friend found this on facebook. It totally made my day.

Why did the chicken cross the road?

KINDERGARTEN TEACHER: To get to the other side.


PLATO: For the greater good.

ARISTOTLE: It is the nature of chickens to cross roads.

KARL MARX: It was a historical inevitability.

TIMOTHY LEARY: Because that's the only trip the establishment would let it take.

SADDAM HUSSEIN: This was an unprovoked act of rebellion and we were quite justified in dropping 50 tons of nerve gas on it.

RONALD REAGAN: I forget.

CAPTAIN JAMES T. KIRK: To boldly go where no chicken has gone before.

HIPPOCRATES: Because of an excess of phlegm in its pancreas.

LOUIS FARRAKHAN: The road, you see, represents the black man. The chicken 'crossed' the black man in order to trample him and keep him down.

MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR.: I envision a world where all chickens will be free to cross roads without having their motives called into question.

MOSES: And God came down from the Heavens, and He said unto the chicken,"Thou shalt cross the road." And the chicken crossed the road, and there was much rejoicing.

FOX MULDER: You saw it cross the road with your own eyes. How many more chickens have to cross the road before you believe it?

RICHARD M. NIXON: The chicken did not cross the road. I repeat, the chicken did NOT cross the road.

MACHIAVELLI: The point is that the chicken crossed the road. Who cares why? The end of crossing the road justifies whatever motive there was.

JERRY SEINFELD: Why does anyone cross a road? I mean, why doesn't anyone ever think to ask, What the heck was this chicken doing walking around all over the place, anyway?"

BILL GATES: I have just released the new Chicken Office 2000, which will not only cross roads, but will lay eggs, file your important documents, and balance your check book.

OLIVER STONE: The question is not, "Why did the chicken cross the road?" Rather, it is, "Who was crossing the road at the same time, whom we overlooked in our haste to observe the chicken crossing?"

DARWIN: Chickens, over great periods of time, have been naturally selected in such a way that they are now genetically disposed to cross roads.

EINSTEIN: Whether the chicken crossed the road or the road moved beneath the chicken depends upon your frame of reference.

BUDDHA: Asking this question denies your own chicken nature.

RALPH WALDO EMERSON: The chicken did not cross the road . It transcended it.

ERNEST HEMINGWAY: To die. In the rain.

COLONEL SANDERS: I missed one?

MICHAEL SCHUMACHER; it was an instinctive maneuver, the chicken obviously didn't see the road until he had already started to cross.

PAT BUCHANAN: To steal a job from a decent, hard-working American.

JOHN LOCKE: Because he was exercising his natural right to liberty.

ALBERT CAMUS: It doesn't matter; the chicken's actions have no meaning except to him.

THE POPE: That is only for God to know.

IMMANUAL KANT: The chicken, being an autonomous being, chose to cross the road of his own free will.

GRANDPA: In my day, we didn't ask why the chicken crossed the road. Someone told us that the chicken had crossed the road, and that was good enough for us.

ERICH MARIA REMARQUE: The chicken crossed the road because, after his experience with war, he no longer felt at home in his home.

M.C. ESCHERr: That depends on which plane of reality the chicken was on at the time.

GEORGE ORWELL: Because the government had fooled him into thinking that he was crossing the road of his own free will, when he was really only serving their interests.

NIETZSCHE: Because if you gaze too long across the Road, the Road gazes also across you.

B.F SKINNER: Because the external influences, which had pervaded its sensorium from birth, had caused it to develop in such a fashion that it would tend to cross roads, even while believing these actions to be of its own free will.

JEAN-PAUL SARTRE: In order to act in good faith and be true to itself, the chicken found it necessary to cross the road.

PYRRHO THE SKEPTIC: What road?

THE SPHINX: You tell me.

EMILY DICKINSON: Because it could not stop for death.

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HALEY’S DAD: To show the Opossum it could be done

“Well why did the opossum cross the road?”

HALEY: Because it was EMO!

 

 

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~H

100+ Reading Challenge

This challenge is hosted at J-Kaye’s book blog. Click here to sign up!

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1. The goal is to read 100 or more books. Anyone can join. You don't need a blog to participate.
--Non-Bloggers: Post your list of books in the comment section of the wrap-up post. To learn how to sign up without having a blog, click here.
2. Audio, Re-reads, eBooks, YA, Manga, Graphic Novels, Library books, Novellas, Young Reader, Nonfiction – as long as the book has an ISBN or equivalent or can be purchased as such, the book counts.
What doesn't count: Individual short stories or individual books in the Bible.
3. No need to list your books in advance. You may select books as you go. Even if you list them now, you can change the list if needed.
4. Crossovers from other reading challenges count.
5. Challenge begins January 1st thru December, 2010. Books started before the 1st do not count.

 

I am pretty sure I can read at least 100 books in a year, considering that I’ve read at least 60 books since I’ve started the blog on September 5th 2009… :D I’m excited!!

January 2010

  1. The SuperStress Solution
  2. Love you to Death
  3. The Sugarless Plum
  4. A Quilter’s Diary
  5. Hearing from God each morning
  6. Mostly Mittens
  7. Terror by Night
  8. Life’s Captivity
  9. Blind Sight
  10. Magic Under Glass
  11. The Heights
  12. Bleeding Violet
  13. Cheating Death
  14. The Channel

    February 2010
  15. Searching for Tina Turner
  16. The Diabetic Pastry Chef
  17. 101 Glam Girl ways to an ultra chic lifestyle
  18. The Last Song
  19. Angels
  20. Beauvallet
  21. Lone Star Legend
  22. Totally Toned Arms
  23. Pride and Prejudice
  24. The Secret Life of Emily Dickinson
  25. Stitch Style: Mittens
  26. Make That a Table for Seven
  27. Shadow Blade
  28. The Mayo Clinic Diet and Journal and Recipe

    March 2010
  29. Dawn of the Dreadfuls
  30. Sing Me to Sleep
  31. Is there a monster over there
  32. Birthmarked

Teaser Tuesday

I know, I haven’t been keeping up with the memes. But today is Tuesday and I’m reading and I came across a cute quote that is not only true, but one I relate to.

“ The therapists are available three hours before each performance. they’re needed because every dancer is always in some kind of pain: a torn calf muscle, a back in spasm, a recovering foot fracture, an arthritic hip. We all dance injured, and we all operate on the assumption that if we can walk, we can dance.” (page 21, The Sugarless Plum)

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I guess this is funny to me, but it might not be to other people. Without going off on a rabbit trail, let’s just say that I’ve been there. I’ve danced with barf buckets on either side of the stage (just in case), knee tape on the knee and extra tights to hide it, makeup on the arms covering bruises, pulled hip flexors (do you know how hard it is to turn out when your hip flexor is strained?) and dancing en pointe without toe pads (yes I have bled through pointe shoes before.). My motto: “If it doesn’t hurt, work harder. If it hurts, work harder more often.” I’ve been nearly dropped while partnering. I’ve danced outside in the FREEZING cold on a slippery floor. I’ve put girls up on my shoulders and held them there for fifteen minutes while we rehearsed the same part OVER AND OVER AND OVER…

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Anyway. Keep on dancing.

~Haleyknitz

knitter

Review: Triangle of Deception

triangleTriangle of Deception by Haggai Carmon
Genre: Crime thriller
Rating: 4/5

 

Summary (from goodreads):

How do you penetrate the world's most secretive and tightly knit terrorist organization? Dan Gordon's only option is deception. Working undercover in a joint CIA/Mossad mission, he's on the hunt for the source of funding to Hezbollah. He has infiltrated a Lebanese network in Paraguay, only to realize the operation is far more wide-ranging than he's been told.
And when Dan finds himself locked in a grim Romanian prison cell, he wonders if there's still more that he hasn't been told. Was it a security leak that got him arrested? Did the CIA make him a sacrificial lamb? Or has he stumbled on a much bigger plot, one with the potential to disrupt Al Qaeda's operations in America?

Triangle of Deception is one of those sit-on-the-edge-of-your-seat books. It’s book four of a series but it makes a wonderful standalone. I don’t want to say too much for fear of giving anything away! Fast paced, energetic, and exciting, this is one that any crime-thriller lover won’t want to miss.

 

**Thank you to Haggai and Bostic Communications for supplying my review copy!**

 

About the Author:

haggai carmon

Haggai Carmon was born in Israel an d in addition to being an author, heads Carmon &  Carmon/GLOBALAW, an international law firm. In 1985, the U.S. Justice Department started retaining Carmon as its attorney to represent the government's interests in its Israeli civil litigation matters, a task he continues to perform. To learn more about Haggai Carmon please visit www.SleepWithOneEyeOpen.com. For  a non-fictional update on spies, espionage an d counterintelligence please visit http://DanGordonSpyClub.com .

 

 

~Haleyknitz
knitter

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